“It’s never too late to be who you might have been.”
~ George Eliot
“It’s never too late to be who you might have been” is one of my favourite quotes. I took the ‘long and scenic’ route to becoming a writer and discovering TRE. You can read my story below…
Me in a Nutshell
- I live on the sunny south coast. I moved here 4 years ago and immediately felt at home. The sea soothes my soul.
- Last year I discovered TRE. It had such a profound effect on me (hint: it’s way more than a stress-relief technique), I trained to become a practitioner and now teach individuals and groups.
- I am an author. I write self-help/health books and children’s books. I am averse to sitting on my bum in front of a computer screen for hours, which is not helpful.
- I used to be a personal trainer. When I’m not writing or teaching, I enjoy qigong, yoga, HIT training, weights, dancing, and hiking. I like to move (see previous point).
My Story: Becoming a Writer
When I was young I dreamt of being a writer. So I did the only sensible thing: I filed my scribbles away in a box beneath my bed and explored every career option known to man except the one I really wanted.
I have been a store manager, a software trainer, and a copywriter. I have sold t-shirts, decorated Christmas trees, and flirted dangerously with becoming a gardener and yoga teacher.
I worked as a personal trainer and health writer for over 12 years; coaching private clients and writing articles on health and wellbeing.
But something was always missing.
One day, whilst studying for a diploma in hypnotherapy, it hit me: I didn’t want to be a hypnotherapist or anything else for that matter; what I wanted to do was move to the coast and write books!
Twelve angst-filled months later, I moved into a new home by the sea. I needn’t have worried. The day I moved in, I knew I had made the right decision.
Over the next two years I wrote five (unpublished) picture books and wrestled with my first children’s novel. Then, finally… success! I was commissioned to write a book about sugar. Oh Sugar! was published in 2015 and my children’s novel, which I finally completed (though it nearly did me in), was shortlisted for the Times/Chicken House Children’s Fiction Competition 2017.
My Story: Discovering TRE
Being shortlisted for the Times/Chicken House Competition was amazing. After all the years of struggle, it was official: I wasn’t a deluded nutcase! But there were a few more obstacles in my way…
Firstly, I was the picture of health until I turned 40, and then my body decided it would be a nice thing to give me daily heart palpitations and random stomach pains.
Secondly, I had suffered with the social anxiety since I was a teenager, which meant I hated any sort of public speaking or being in large groups (I steered clear of both).
And thirdly, I was creatively blocked. I would only write if I was frogmarched to the computer by a truly horrendous deadline.
I tried everything I could think of to help myself – meditation, mindfulness, yoga, Tai Chi, Reiki, counselling… I even gave up caffeine, dairy and alcohol for 3 long months!
Everything helped a bit. But nothing helped a lot, until I stumbled across TRE.
I read The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, which explained how stress and trauma is stored in the body, creating physical and emotional symptoms.
I booked myself on a ‘tension and trauma release’ workshop and started practising TRE three times a week. Little by little, amazing things started to happen:
My stomach pains disappeared.
My daily palpitations went down to once or twice a week.
My anxiety started to fade. Not only was I calmer and less bothered by the stresses of everyday life but, to my surprise, I felt more connected to people and less worried about what they were thinking!
And wonder of wonders, I started to feel creative in refreshing new way. I realised I wanted to create for the joy of it rather than an end result (like being published, making millions, or gaining anyone’s approval). I started writing, dancing and painting again in a much more playful way.
It was such a relief!
Of course, this didn’t happen overnight. And I’m still a work in progress. Whilst I now teach TRE to small groups – something I would have been terrified of in the past – I won’t be announcing my new career as a public speaker anytime soon :-)
Still, my life has changed in so many ways and it’s all down to TRE.
When you switch off the stress response and re-balance the nervous system, you start to heal physically and emotionally. And then magical things start to happen.
If we ever get the chance to work together, I hope the journey is as amazing for you as it has been for me…